The Sure-Fire Way to Find Your Passion: What Breaks Your Heart?
To spend our lives doing what we love. The most beautiful concept out there, and also the most difficult to implement in day-to-day life.
During my time building this community — a group of life adventurers all seeking to live an awesome life — I’ve encountered one huge problem:
So many people struggle to find their passion.
Last week, I read an article that completely tore me to pieces. It provides what may be the one solution to help people find their passion in a way that is so dear and close to their heart they may not even know it’s their “passion”.
The article, by Umair Haque, says the following:
“What is it that breaks your heart about the world? It’s there that you begin to find what moves you. If you want to find your passion, surrender to your heartbreak. Your heartbreak points towards a truer north — and it’s the difficult journey towards it that is, in the truest sense … enduring, tempestuous passion.”
Is passion really just our heartbreak transformed into positive action? Could our passions really be hiding within what kills us about the world?
How Heartbreak Defines Your Passion
For many people out there, and for many of you reading this blog, identifying exactly what you’d enjoy doing for the rest of your life isn’t as easy as it sounds. Sure, you want more freedom and a cooler job — but you aren’t sure exactly how to go about making that happen.
Finding your passion is really about finding what really moves you. Discovering what pisses you off and breaks your heart may be the first step in that direction. Here’s why:
- It identifies what you find interesting. When something truly breaks your heart, there is no doubt that you find it compelling enough to hang around it for long periods of time.
- It uncovers a cause you long to fix, what I call your purpose. If it hurts you enough, you yearn to find a way to change it.
- It unveils a process that you want to use to learn related skills. Having identified a path to fixing something means you know the steps you need to take to get there.
- It matches up what’s inside you to what’s outside you. The world out there needs what you’ve got. The fact that you feel heartbreak means you have what it takes (motivation) to make change happen.
Is this something that could help you discover what you’re meant to do?
My Own Heartbreak
Over the years, I’ve gone through so many phases of heartbreak and so many versions of “finding my passion”. As I mentioned during my TEDx talk, what I’m passionate about now isn’t the same as it will be in a few months. What breaks my heart changes over time and along with what I am going through at that moment.
My passion fluctuates. All I can do is lean into it — always.
Right now, here are some things that break my heart:
- people desiring love — but hurting each other
- people wanting happiness — but not become aware of what is lurking inside
- people yearning to change in their lives — but not pulling through
- employees wasting their days in a job they hate — but not trying to break free
- entrepreneurs wanting to launch something huge — but not putting in the necessary time to truly learn
- people wanting to make a splash — but not reaching out to a community for help
These things worry me and get me really fired up. If we ever hang out in person, don’t get me started because I will rattle on forever about this stuff.
You see? These pieces of heartbreak are what drove me to build The Perpetual Vacation. These are the problems I strive to solve through the community that will launch on March 1st.
Heartbreak — What This Means For You
In my experience, identifying what breaks your heart can lead to the following awesome results:
- Discover your passion. If you have clue what your passion is, get closer to figuring it out. No more need to wander around helplessly. Zero in on your target.
- Reallocate your energy. If you have an idea of what you are passionate about, think through your heartbreak to see where you should be allocating your energy. This can do wonders for clearing your calendar. Focus, focus, focus.
- Check in on changes. If you are sure of your passion and your path, use your heartbreak to come up with new ways to solve the problems that most interest you. New ideas, new projects, new you.
You have a passion to follow. Discover it.
Now that we’ve discovered how it can help, it’s time to try applying it to your own life. Clear your mind, and start digging.
What breaks your heart? Share your story in the comments.